This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.
Today is Bob's 72nd birthday. "Al" does not remember this is the day he entered this world but Sheri will celebrate with Bob anyway, you never know if there will be another one, but then again none of us do, do we? :)
Bob is a man that hated the prospect of letting the dogs in the house. "Al" is more than willing to let the squirrels, rabbits, birds and those little critters that look so goofy.. some type of rodent into the house to be fed, bathed and protected from the weather, as if this tiny little house is not crowded enough.
Bob's work (Code for Adult Day Center) did their version of the Academy Awards yesterday. Bob was thrilled he had received an award and asked Sheri repeatedly on the way home if he had shown it to her. She said she was very proud of him and that he was very deserving of the award. After about the tenth time of Bob asking Sheri if she had seen the award, "Al" with great pride (and a tad bit of conceit) in his voice explained to Sheri that he was quite sure no one else's award had this pretty gold trim around the border edge :)
Sheri does not know if it is the disease or something else, but Bob has not been able to evaluate his own needs in years. So when out of the blue last night Bob sat up in bed and firmly declared he needed a drink of water, Sheri was shocked, having only heard him make a statement like that maybe 2 times in five years.(weird I know.) When he then began to get out of bed, and hobble down the hallway Sheri was even more shocked and for split second though to herself "wow he is having a moment of clarity" but then she realized Bob was not going to be able to find the glasses in the kitchen so she tip toed down the hall to see how he was doing. As she expected Bob could not find the glasses in the kitchen, but mostly because he could not locate the kitchen, Sheri found "Al" in the bathroom looking behind the shower curtain, when Sheri asked him what he was doing, "Al" replied " I was going to get a drink of water" then waving his pointer finger back and forth at the shower curtain said "but I don't know what is going on here with this." :)
Heavy sigh, well it was a water source right?
Sheri has been very lucky that "Al" is complacent and passive, but for some reason "their" shoes are very important to "them" and after taking them off "they" want to put them right back on. "They" would sleep with them on if Sheri let them. She knows she is suppose to pick her battles, but trying not to get kicked at night by shoes... is a battle she is picking, well at least for now :)
Sheri is hoping for a better week. When Sheri feels overwhelmed, it is reflected in Bob and "Al", and then projected through them, back to Sheri. Keeping all the balls in the air can be challenging to say the least.
From the end of the earth I will cry to You, When my heart is overwhelmed; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I. Psalm 61:2
When Sheri and Bob climbed in to bed last night they were tired from running the regular weekend errands."Al" stretching out Bob's back in his usual way said questioningly " I am surprised I did not get any calls today." Now Bob has not used a phone in many years so Sheri replied " Calls? Calls from who?' "Al" replied with an air of frustration in his voice like Sheri should have know "from work, ( code for Adult Day Center) without me there know one has any idea what to do!"
Yep, he is right, I should have know :)
Bob saw a rabbit out side the bedroom window last evening, (this time it actually was a rabbit). "Al"said ( with that all to familiar sound of disgust in his voice) "what is that down there?" Sheri replied "Oh, it's a rabbit" "Al" in his confusion replied "no I don't think so, but whatever it is we need to wash his feet before he comes in the house." Sheri thought to herself "I'll get right on that."
heavy sigh. :)