This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Saturday, August 30, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Conversation is probably the thing Sheri misses the most. Sheri thinks she probably always did most of the talking, but Bob was interactive in his own way. Yesterday on the way home Sheri tried again to have a conversation. It was pouring down rain and Sheri said "Wow, it is really raining hard." Bob looking around and said " there is a loose gravel sign, I have been looking at the blue prints, do I have choir?" Sheri knows she should be grateful he can still speak at all, but she is human and where he is today still hurts.
Conversation... just missing true conversation.

Friday, August 29, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

After exhausting herself in search of a new place to live, Sheri has been blessed with a bit of good news. The county is not taking the whole house as she originally though, just a huge chunk of the front yard . The side walk and the road will come closer to her front door but she is feeling like she is just going to have to deal with it. She can not find a place that works on her budget and meets the needs of  Bob and "Al". The work will start in the Spring and maybe it won't be that bad. Who knows with in a year a lot may change with "Al" and Sheri may be looking for a totally different type of living space. At least for the moment she is going to try and stick it out, she has been so stressed over it, she just can't seem to pull a move off right now.
(Thank you cyber friends for worrying with me :)

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri gets so frustrated when Bob follows her around. As soon as Sheri gets up in the morning, "Al" gets up too. She knows it is not his fault, but she so needs that little bit of time to drink her coffee and sit in silence with her cats. Sometimes she can send him back to bed, and sometimes not. Unless you are living it, or have lived it, no one will ever know what this Alzheimer life is like.

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob is concerned about Meeko the cat. "Al" is thinking that her whiskers are way to long and should be trimmed  :)

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is wishing she was not such an emotional person. If she could disconnect from her emotions, maybe life would not hurt so much. But then again when she tries to disconnect .... she feels empty. If she disconnects she also does not feel the joy she feels when she looks at nature and all the beauty God has created. Sheri needs to balance her emotions she needs to continue to pause, praise and pray.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob told Sheri (several times a day) over the weekend that he was able to convince his boss at "work" (code for (Adult Day Center) to hire a new guy. "Al" said nobody wanted to hire him because they thought another new guy would be too much work. Bob told them "If you train him right from the very first day he will be fine" and after a moment of thought with "Al's" thumb in Bob's belt loop stretching out Bob's back in his usual way "Al" said you just have to have patience with some people.. and they will call you Mr. Bob.
Oh my :)


Sunday, August 24, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

While Sheri was focusing on finding joy yesterday, by doing a little indoor photography, "Al" was working on his fashion statement. Shorts on top of pajamas, topped off with a pair of jeans. But in the end does it really matter?


Saturday, August 23, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is working on "choosing joy" today, in the moment. We have all been dealt a hand in life. Sheri is not sure what the plan is, but she IS sure God has one. :)

Friday, August 22, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was at "work" ( code for Adult Day Center) yesterday, but "Al" says he went to the State Fair . Sheri is jealous, she has never been to the State Fair but "Al" convinced her there was nothing new there, so she guesses she didn't miss much.  :)

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri knows this will be a slow transition for Bob, "Al" keeps asking where Daughter Number Two is. Sheri knows it is not his fault, Sheri just needs to join him ...living in the moment. He was asking where she was daily before she left, it is just Sheri who is uncomfortable with the answer.