This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character"Al" that I created in 2008 represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

There is a sharp contrast, from "the boys" a year ago, even since this past Christmas and now. Every once and a while Sheri can get him to sing a few words. This was the song he had a two line solo in , in the choir at the day center he attended for 5 years. A Pastor friend has been going with Sheri to pray over "the boys" and sing hymns with "them", my friend is holding Bob's hand keeping beat, "Al" is no longer capable.
Sheri's heart hurts.

Sunday, March 18, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Today March 18th is Sheri and Bob's 29th wedding anniversary. This year she did not hide from it. She found the cassette tape of their wedding vows and brought it with her to the facility where "the boys" live. She sat beside him wearing both of their wedding rings. She explained what the tape was. She played it through with no recognition from Bob, she did not expect any... she did it for herself. She is trying hard to reconcile her marriage, feelings of rejection, abandonment, and loneliness in the years before Bob was diagnosed. She paused. she praised, she prayed, she wept.

Saturday, March 17, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Dear friends, this life we have on this earth is so very short, and our Alzheimer burdens are many and very heavy.  Sheri wants to tell you though, if you wake up and hear the birds singing, God has blessed you greatly...cast your cares upon Him.

1Peter 5:7
Cast all your cares upon Him, for he cares for you.

Friday, March 16, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is working hard on centering her life around Christ instead of "self", because she knows she not still walking on this earth because of her own abilities.  It is only through the Grace of God she is able to share her journey, and she is nothing without Him.
Sheri will continue to Pause Praise and Pray.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri has been wearing both Bob's wedding ring and her wedding ring. As she sat in front of  "the boys" she showed him the rings and said "Bob do you know what these are?" "Al" stuttered and stammered and Bob eventually mumbled "wedding wheels." Sheri will take it, God is good.

Saturday, March 10, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sometimes it just takes a second to bring Sheri to tears. She was visiting with "the boys" last weekend, when they got out to the hallway out side the locked door "Al" put Bob's arm around Sheri and Bob kissed the top of Sheri's head. She is not sure why for that very split second , Bob knew who she was, but the dam of emotions Sheri has been holding back for years...has a hole in it.

Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

The "boys" have had 3 falls in the last 2 weeks. The medicines they have put "Al" on for his aggression, has had a challenging affect on Bob's balance.
Sheri needs to pause, praise and pray.

Saturday, February 24, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri got out this morning for some much needed camera and God time. The frost on the trees and the hazy fog was a great reminder that Jesus's blood covers and protects her every single day.
Sheri stopped to pause, pray and pray.

Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri wonders what "Bob" would say, if his words were all his own.
Would he say "Sheri when you leave the room... I feel all alone".

Would he say " I am sorry, for the things I piled around"
I am sorry for the things I lost, like the gift you never found"

Would he say "thank you', for taking care of the family
Would he say "your eyes look tired', and wipe the tears he see's?

Would he know that open arms, are an invitation to hold her tight
Would he know she needs him in the darkest part of night.

Would he say he loves her like the day that they were wed
Would one look be enough to feel the love even with words unsaid

Sheri wonders what would Bob say if his words were all his own
But Bob's voice is a whisper...and Sheri feels... alone.

Monday, February 12, 2018