This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob is struggling to put any coherent thought together. A little bit of this and a little bit of that, "Al" does not seem bothered by the confused conversation smiling and tapping his hands on his knees to the music.  Sheri is thankful for that. This disease is far harder on those around "Al" than it is on "Al", at least from the outside looking in.
2 Corinthians 4:8

We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair;

Monday, May 25, 2015



       For all those who made
        the ultimate sacrifice.


Sunday, May 24, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

There is something about nature's beauty that brings Sheri such joy and peace. Bob and "Al" have pneumonia and Sheri has been tending to him, but while he was napping, she was able to shoot this picture of a humming bird through her bedroom window, what joy it brings her. God is good all the time.


Saturday, May 23, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri's note to Doctors and Nurses
Dear Nurse or Doctor, I have the utmost respect for you and your dedication to helping people, so please take this in the spirit it is intended.
I do not understand why when I try to be proactive and tell you my husband has moderate  Alzheimer's and that he will not be able to answer your questions, such as how long have you had this cough, and is it productive, or what is your birthday, why do you continue to try? His chart must confirm his diagnosis?  He is uncomfortable and stressed in this new environment and as a caregiver it is frustrating to see their anxiety heighten unnecessarily. I do understand not ignoring the patient, or acting like he is invisible, but maybe that could be accomplished by saying things like I am sorry you are not feeling well Mr. fill in the blank, do you mind if I ask your wife some questions,we are going to help you feel better.
This is new and uncharted territory learning to handle communication with Alzheimer patients and every patient is different so this is not meant to challenge your professionalism, maybe there is some requirement I am not aware of. This is just personal feedback from my personal experience thank you Nurse or Doctor for all you do.
Sheri hates this disease.

Friday, May 22, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Driving home from work yesterday Bob's watch (which he wears faithfully but is not able to read) made a beeping sound. Bob looked down at his watch and said "oh, it must be time." Sheri replied with a chuckle in her voice "time for what?" Looking out the front window of the car Bob hesitated and then waving his pointer finger back and forth "Al" replied "Time to move all these cars around and get them back in line."
Well, she did ask... silly girl.

Thursday, May 21, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob depends solely on the routine Sheri has provided for him. One little change to the routine and "Al" does not know if he is coming or going. But then again in this crazy Alzheimer world she lives in, between her work, Bob and "Al", Sheri not sure most days if she is coming or going either.  :)

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was telling Sheri he was very busy at "work" (code for Adult Day Center) yesterday, because he did all the scheduling of all the buses ( as they passed the Metro Mobility bus on the street). Then he had to intstuct everyone on moving the huge piles of dirt ( as they passed a construction site). Sheri was hoping as they passed the bank that "Al" might have found some money or something, but as usual the only thing Bob said about the bank is that it had gone out of business  :)
Heavy sigh....

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Monday, May 18, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri and Bob were in the kitchen and "Al" asked Sheri if he should close the door. Sheri usually has a pretty quick thinking reponse but this time it escaped her as she stood looking around, mainly becasue... there is no door in the kitchen. :)

Sunday, May 17, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri was trying to get Bob to help get the laundry caught up. She piled the clean clothes on the bed and gave "Al" some hangers. The project was slow, very slow. Even slower than Sheri expected, especially since  "Al" kept insisting he was only holding half a shirt? :(